romance
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After seeing the Dylan biopic A Complete Unknown, I hauled out my old Bob Dylan CDs and listened to my way-back-when beloved songs, as I suppose many did. I used to like his early work best, but this time I chose Love Sick, a collection of his love songs (and some anti-love songs). This album
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Since I’ve long been interested in extramarital love affairs, thanks to my own experiences, I’ve noticed a persistent explanation for why they happen: It usually boils down to this unproven banality…You had an affair because you don’t believe you deserve love. This sweeping idea is so vague it can be sloppily applied to many people,
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M.A.F.S. English professor or not, I’m not embarrassed to admit that I’m a Married at First Sight super-fan. I’ve seen every season since the first, and even with its poor rate of successful marriages (maybe better than The Bachelor/Bachelorette, though), I find it fascinating. Why? Because it’s so difficult to predict which couples will stay
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In my previous post, I asked which you’d choose: “passion,” meaning intense emotional desire, or “love”, defined as deep companionable affection. The question is absurd: in real life, you can’t choose which one you feel for a particular person. My hypothetical question was only meant to show something about yourself. For example, I would choose
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Let’s say you have to choose Door A or Door B for your future life. Behind Door A is a person you could love passionately all your life. But your fate is to spend only a short time with Person A, and you cannot know how long. Behind Door B is a person you’ll be
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In Part II, I wrote: Ask questions! Not factual questions (“How do you get to work?”), or at least not mostly factual questions. Look, if you’re not just looking for sex or fun (which is sometimes the same thing), you want to plumb the depths, and quickly. Or at least I do, to fend off
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How Not to Date Me Online, Part I The Dating Profile: 1. I know this sounds odd, but telling me what activities you like to do in your profile isn’t helpful. Why? Because so, so many people like to travel, go to movies, and eat out, believe it or not! It doesn’t matter to me
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“Love yourself” is a relatively new cultural concept, which now seems everywhere in popular culture as life advice. This idea is often applied to romantic relationships: you must learn to love yourself before you can truly love or be loved. There’s rarely an actual reason given for this meme, since memes are always taken as
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Are “emotional affairs”….affairs?
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When she was only 14, Jane Austen wrote a novel called Love and Freindship (that’s right, she misspelled it), satirizing the tendency of her time to romanticize both attachments as passionate, “undying love.” In our own time and culture, romantic love is assumed to be the basis for marriage, so it makes sense that we
Susan Ostrov 