dating
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You may not have heard a little-known fact that’s well-known in the field of sociology: Couples who live together before they marry (what social scientists call “cohabitation”) are more likely to divorce. Why? This is intrinsically odd (counterintuitive, if you like), because you’d think these couples would already have been exposed to each other’s character
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After seeing the Dylan biopic A Complete Unknown, I hauled out my old Bob Dylan CDs and listened to my way-back-when beloved songs, as I suppose many did. I used to like his early work best, but this time I chose Love Sick, a collection of his love songs (and some anti-love songs). This album
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Hetero-pessimism? I have to confess it: I love men. Not all of them, of course, but that’s the sex I’m romantically and physically attracted to, like it or not. I also have a bunch of male friends I’m not attracted to, and that’s been enriching for me. Why do I get along well with males?
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M.A.F.S. English professor or not, I’m not embarrassed to admit that I’m a Married at First Sight super-fan. I’ve seen every season since the first, and even with its poor rate of successful marriages (maybe better than The Bachelor/Bachelorette, though), I find it fascinating. Why? Because it’s so difficult to predict which couples will stay
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Not long ago a question came up in my Women and Literature class: Who should pay for the first date? My students eagerly participated in the discussion, even the ones who hadn’t done the reading or never talked in class. ALL my female students said they expected the man to pay, certainly for the first
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In Part II, I wrote: Ask questions! Not factual questions (“How do you get to work?”), or at least not mostly factual questions. Look, if you’re not just looking for sex or fun (which is sometimes the same thing), you want to plumb the depths, and quickly. Or at least I do, to fend off
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How Not to Date Me Online, Part I The Dating Profile: 1. I know this sounds odd, but telling me what activities you like to do in your profile isn’t helpful. Why? Because so, so many people like to travel, go to movies, and eat out, believe it or not! It doesn’t matter to me
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… My mind went straight to this: Wait, this guy had a GIRLFRIEND? He was 63, a disgruntled loner, not a looker. I doubt he had Ted Bundy’s charm. So what the hell? Why do these men always seem to have a girlfriend in the wings? I want to know how…
Susan Ostrov 