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You may not have heard a little-known fact that’s well-known in the field of sociology: Couples who live together before they marry (what social scientists call “cohabitation”) are more likely to divorce. Why? This is intrinsically odd (counterintuitive, if you like), because you’d think these couples would already have been exposed to each other’s character
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After seeing the Dylan biopic A Complete Unknown, I hauled out my old Bob Dylan CDs and listened to my way-back-when beloved songs, as I suppose many did. I used to like his early work best, but this time I chose Love Sick, a collection of his love songs (and some anti-love songs). This album
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Since I’ve long been interested in extramarital love affairs, thanks to my own experiences, I’ve noticed a persistent explanation for why they happen: It usually boils down to this unproven banality…You had an affair because you don’t believe you deserve love. This sweeping idea is so vague it can be sloppily applied to many people,
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My brain is burning since I saw the movie Babygirl, partly because it depicts an extramarital affair in a very different way than I’ve seen in films before, and also because I could relate to Romy, played by Nicole Kidman, in about 20 ways (not for her wealth or high-powered job as a CEO, unfortunately.)
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In the Fifties and Sixties, my mom was hardly a Trad Wife: she had fallen in love and married, yes…and then she constantly worked because we couldn’t get by on my father’s salary as a subway worker. She also hated household maintenance, and had no interest (or competence) in the joys of “making food from
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Hetero-pessimism? I have to confess it: I love men. Not all of them, of course, but that’s the sex I’m romantically and physically attracted to, like it or not. I also have a bunch of male friends I’m not attracted to, and that’s been enriching for me. Why do I get along well with males?
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M.A.F.S. English professor or not, I’m not embarrassed to admit that I’m a Married at First Sight super-fan. I’ve seen every season since the first, and even with its poor rate of successful marriages (maybe better than The Bachelor/Bachelorette, though), I find it fascinating. Why? Because it’s so difficult to predict which couples will stay
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Let’s say you have to choose Door A or Door B for your future life. Behind Door A is a person you could love passionately all your life. But your fate is to spend only a short time with Person A, and you cannot know how long. Behind Door B is a person you’ll be
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Not long ago a question came up in my Women and Literature class: Who should pay for the first date? My students eagerly participated in the discussion, even the ones who hadn’t done the reading or never talked in class. ALL my female students said they expected the man to pay, certainly for the first
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Note: Now these instructions may not work for you, because you are not me — especially if you’re a mere youth. These words of wisdom are all based on true experiences. 1. Important! Do not say you’re sex-positive on the first date, don’t tell a supposedly hilarious story about your penis, in fact don’t mention
Susan Ostrov 