Susan
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Note: Now these instructions may not work for you, because you are not me — especially if you’re a mere youth. These words of wisdom are all based on true experiences. 1. Important! Do not say you’re sex-positive on the first date, don’t tell a supposedly hilarious story about your penis, in fact don’t mention
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In Part II, I wrote: Ask questions! Not factual questions (“How do you get to work?”), or at least not mostly factual questions. Look, if you’re not just looking for sex or fun (which is sometimes the same thing), you want to plumb the depths, and quickly. Or at least I do, to fend off
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How Not to Date Me Online, Part I The Dating Profile: 1. I know this sounds odd, but telling me what activities you like to do in your profile isn’t helpful. Why? Because so, so many people like to travel, go to movies, and eat out, believe it or not! It doesn’t matter to me
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“Love yourself” is a relatively new cultural concept, which now seems everywhere in popular culture as life advice. This idea is often applied to romantic relationships: you must learn to love yourself before you can truly love or be loved. There’s rarely an actual reason given for this meme, since memes are always taken as
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Are “emotional affairs”….affairs?
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When she was only 14, Jane Austen wrote a novel called Love and Freindship (that’s right, she misspelled it), satirizing the tendency of her time to romanticize both attachments as passionate, “undying love.” In our own time and culture, romantic love is assumed to be the basis for marriage, so it makes sense that we
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On the other hand…I believe there are many people who are successful in love relationships specifically because they DO fall in love only when the love object loves them. Does this completely contradict the previous blog post? Not really, because there’s a huge difference between CONSCIOUSLY attempting to control your passions and doing it without
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The world’s most stupid romantic advice, in my opinion, is…Only fall in love with those who are in love with you. This bit of wisdom dates back to the Victorian era, when the rules of courtship for men and women were divided neatly into the active gender and the passive gender. You’ll have no trouble
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Since I’m a sucker for romance, I’ve been curious about the enormous audience for the streaming show Bridgerton. I couldn’t finish Season One of Bridgerton, as it seemed more silly than funny, but I did get caught up in Season Two, because the triangulation of the sisters and lover was well done. Then I found
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DONT: 1. Spend the afternoon the same way you normally do as a couple, then spring the bad news when you’re…
Susan Ostrov 