October 2024
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Not long ago a question came up in my Women and Literature class: Who should pay for the first date? My students eagerly participated in the discussion, even the ones who hadn’t done the reading or never talked in class. ALL my female students said they expected the man to pay, certainly for the first
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Note: Now these instructions may not work for you, because you are not me — especially if you’re a mere youth. These words of wisdom are all based on true experiences. 1. Important! Do not say you’re sex-positive on the first date, don’t tell a supposedly hilarious story about your penis, in fact don’t mention
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In Part II, I wrote: Ask questions! Not factual questions (“How do you get to work?”), or at least not mostly factual questions. Look, if you’re not just looking for sex or fun (which is sometimes the same thing), you want to plumb the depths, and quickly. Or at least I do, to fend off
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How Not to Date Me Online, Part I The Dating Profile: 1. I know this sounds odd, but telling me what activities you like to do in your profile isn’t helpful. Why? Because so, so many people like to travel, go to movies, and eat out, believe it or not! It doesn’t matter to me
Susan Ostrov 